e. Bad Example: I want to spend more time with my child/friend/family/significant
other.
f. Good Example: I want to do 4 special activities a month with my
child/friend/family/significant other.
3. Attainable: You should not set yourself up to fail. There are just some things that you
know you cannot do. However, you also should not sell yourself short. You should be
logical. One of your goals should not be meeting a dead president, or climbing a
mountain next month if you cannot climb a flight of stairs today. Attainability is different
for everyone; thus, specific examples are difficult to establish. Apply common sense and
logic to your goals, and you will be able to come up with what you can do.
4. Realistic: This principle is very similar to attainability but is slightly different. The nuance
is the difference between what you can do and what you are willing to do. “Realistic” is
what you are willing to do. For instance, you could strive to lose 20 pounds in 12 weeks,
but are you really going to put in all that work at the gym, change your eating habits,
and change your lifestyle? Before establishing your goal, understand how much effort
you are willing to put into it. Again, specific examples are difficult to establish since only
you know what you are willing to put towards achieving your goal.
5. Timely: Your goals need an end date, regardless of what the goal is. Even if the goal is
something that you want to do for the rest of your life, such as developing or stopping a
habit, you need to pick a date to end your focus on this specific goal. If your goal is to
meditate for 30 minutes every day, you need to specify an end date. Therefore, your
goal may resemble the following: “I want to meditate for 30 minutes a day for one
month.” If your goal involves developing or stopping a habit and is one that you wish to
continue for a lifetime, such as stopping procrastination, it should resemble the
following: “I want to finish all of my assigned research papers 3 days before they are
due, for the remainder of the fall semester.” Selecting an end date for your goal is
important because you need to pick a point in time at which to congratulate yourself, to
consider why and how you succeeded or failed, and to evaluate what did and did not
work. The following are some examples to consider:
a. Bad Example: I want to be able to run a mile in less than 10 minutes.
b. Good Example: By my birthday, I want to be able to run a mile in less than 10
minutes.
c. Bad Example: I want to do 3 special activities with my wife.
d. Good Example: I want to do 3 special activities with my wife in July.
e. Bad Example: I want to do 200 hours of community service.
f. Good Example: I want to do 200 hours of community service by August 1, 2009.